How Do I Say Goodbye to What We Had?

I was sitting in here just now when It's So Hard to Say Goodbye to Yesterday came on. I immediately got depressed and happy at the same time. Am I the only person like that when the song comes on? If you grew up in the 90s then you know what I'm talking about. Just like you couldn't go to a black cookout without The Fresh Prince's Summertime coming on, you couldn't go to a single graduation or funeral without hearing Boyz II Men.

Everybody's favorite part: And I'll taaaaaake with me the memoriiiiies to BE my sunshine after the raaaaii(riffing, riffing riffing)iiiiiiin. (Then you do the serious face) It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday (high pitched).

What's funny is that back then I thought I could sing, so me and my friends had this fake me out group in middle school. It wasn't official. We didn't have a name or anything. Actually, the group didn't last longer than about a week or two. In true DC Public Schools fashion, we spent many a day playing spades and tonk in class, and one day somebody broke out in song. It might have been me, it might've been another guy. All I know is that two other people joined in and all it took was one pressed girl to say "Y'all don't sound half bad" to boost our little egos.

Because I had a grown man's facial hair at 11, I was naturally selected to do the deep voiced parts. Yep, we sat in class singing at a half whisper decibel because I think deep down we all knew that we couldn't sing, but we kept the lie alive in our hearts for a couple of days.

For me, the dream died around graduation time. It was the 90s so of course we picked It's So Hard... to be our song. Actually, we didn't pick that. Our teachers picked that. When they dragged us all into the auditorium and told us to pick a song, we voted on Tha Crossroads. Second choice went to 5 o' Clock in the Morning. Let that be a lesson to aspiring teachers out there. Don't let DCPS kids pick their graduation song. You don't even wanna know what third pick was (hint: Who's that peepin in my window? Pow, nobody now!).

So anyway, the main song was One Moment in Time and we had a girl in our class who could blow. I'm talking Showtime at the Apollo. The Boyz II Men song was going to be the first round. I'd lied so much about being able to sing that my name came up to sing the song. I got called into the music classroom and the teacher asked me to sing.

I sounded like somebody was beating a squirrel to death. Surprisingly, nobody laughed. The handful of girls that mattered said, "He's just nervous." (No, he's not.) So they went on and planned for me to sing the song with two of my friends. Lucky for me, I went to Ocean City the weekend before and I got really sick. I came to school looking like death and told them that I just couldn't do it. My buddy went up there and sang and I swear it made my tortured squirrel voice sound like Luther Vandross.

I can't remember if people laughed out loud or just quietly to themselves, but they laughed. I was so glad I dodged that bullet. But talking about the whole thing just makes me miss middle school.  But you know what...
I'll take with me the memories to be my sunshine after the rain...

 

Unslumping Yourself Is Not Easily Done

I've been pretty down the last few days and it all came to a head today. If I can be dramatic for a minute, I feel like I'm in a Greek tragedy. I spent my entire life trying to avoid ending up like some of the adults around me and it seems like my efforts to avoid it just steered me in that direction. It hurts when you find out that it takes a lot more than an oar and a moral compass to navigate life's waters.

Sometimes I try to catch myself when I realize that I'm "sorry-ing for myself." Other times I just let it go. Today was one of those days. You know how it is when you start feeling down. Eventually you jump sides and start speaking for the prosecution inside your head when you should be on the defense. I started thinking about all that's happened and the extent of my failures. Then I got on the subject of my daughter.

More than anything in life, I just want to be a good father. I wondered if maybe staying home for three years was a mistake. Would she have been better off in daycare. She seems to be doing so well there and I can see an immediate improvement in her social skills. As crazy as it sounds, I started thinking that maybe nothing special came from my staying home with her. That thought combined with my reflecting on all of the craziness that's been going on since the year started lead me to think: I've failed. What am I doing with my life? Where am I going. Do I even know what I'm doing? Is this a chance to start my life over or am I deluding myself?

Just then, I heard a very loud "English as a second language" voice coming from the living room:

CONGRATULATION! Today is your day. You're off to gweat pwaces. You're off and away. You have bwains in your head and feet in your shoe. You can steer yourself any direction you chew. You're on your own and you know what you know. And YOU are the guy who decide where to go.

I crept down the hall and found her sitting on the couch reading her second favorite book, "Oh the Places You'll Go!" I don't know if it was just the sight of her reading a book that she'd memorized thanks to me reading it 50 times a day or if it was the perfect timing of picking that book at that moment, but I felt better immediately. I remained hidden on the other side of the wall as I listened to my motivational speaker.

I sorry to say but sadly it true that bang ups and hang ups can happen to you...
All a-wone whether you like it or not. A-wone will be something you'll be quite a lot...And will you succeed? YES!!!!! You will indeed. Ninety eight and thwee quarts GUARANTEED! Kid, you'll move mountains!

You're off to gweat pwaces. Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting so get on your way!

You know what? I feel better. She sure as hell didn't learn that in daycare.

Weatherman Performance Review

I really wanna know what the performance metrics look like for a meteorologist. I almost got fired from the movies back in high school for quoting the wrong price for a large popcorn to a mystery shopper. How in the hell can you shut down the Federal and District Governments and still be employed the next day? I have to believe that your error carries a bit more weight than me adding a quarter to the price of a Sprite. Coca-Cola's stock price didn't plummet in the market the next morning after my error.

Schools and libraries closed. People didn't go to work. Metro didn't make the money they needed to continue fixing one broken escalator step at a time. Hot dog vendors and sole proprietorships went without the ever-important day's revenue. Some form that was supposed to be mailed out no later than C.O.B. today is still sitting on a desk. It's kind of a big deal. All of this because you and your buddies have been on television all week telling us that the first piece of the sky would dislodge around midnight with the remainder falling from the heavens over the course of the day.

Now don't get me wrong, I know that meteorology isn't an exact science, but I wonder if they know that. Their confidence is misleading. It's gotten to the point that they tell you the weather hourly now. How many times have you checked the weather online to find that you apparently have a force field over your neighborhood, because it's supposed to be raining, but all you see are clear skies? If you can't tell me what's happening right now, how can you tell me what's going to happen three days from now?

So going back to my initial question, what's on their performance review? I've never heard of a meteorologist being fired for being wrong. Here in DC, the same five weathermen from my childhood are still on TV today. I like them, so none of this applies to them, even though they mess up at times too. I guess I'm biased because I feel like I know them. Topper Shutt, Sue Palka and the gang gave me hope many a night before school as a kid. Tony Perkins killed it the next morning when we just had a light dusting. (DCPS OPEN ON TIME) Still, I wonder what's on their review.
1. Consistently places hand in correct spot on green screen
2. Moves out of the way for the weather "slide show" in time
3. Wears clothes that don't create an optical illusion or spawn an epileptic seizure in front of the green screen
4. When sitting at desk "downstairs in the weather center," makes sure the weather map screen saver is on before camera rolls

 

SuperBug

I am a man. I just want to go ahead and throw that out there, because you may forget it by the end of this post. If there was a rat in my apartment right now, I'd catch it with my bare hands. If there was a snake in here, then he'd meet the same fate as the rat. If a man came in here and threatened my child, he'd wish he were that rat or snake. I am a man!!!

So don't go judging me because this New York City cockroach scared the hell out of me in here yesterday. My hood training is thorough. Check my resume. I know how to go over somebody's house, pretend I don't see the roaches, and then shake my clothes out as I'm leaving. That's called hood manners. But hood roaches and NYC cockroaches are two totally different things. One is an insect. The other is a mammal.

Anyway, I was in the bathroom mirror brushing my hair (because I'm bringing waves back) when I saw something run by in the background. It was like a horror movie and I reacted just the way I've always said I would act if I were in a horror movie: I balled up my fists and spun around ready to swing on whatever undead thing it turned out to be. But there was nothing there. I looked up at the ceiling in case "it" was hiding and then I looked down at the floor.

I have never seen a cockroach that big in my life. I thought it was a mouse. I seriously stood there dumbfounded for a second trying to process how any bug could get that big. It was at least 2 inches long, so stepping on it wasn't even an option. This thing would either create a huge mess that I had no interest in cleaning up or it would grab my foot and throw me across the room. Normally, the vacuum cleaner is my friend in this situation, but I have hardwoods in my new place. Buying a vacuum hasn't been a priority.

My only option was to go with chemical warfare. With antennae that big, it read my mind and took off running. The Usain Bolt of roaches teleported from the bathroom to the bedroom in about a second. I looked in the cabinet and immediately started kicking myself for buying those "natural" cleaning products that were on sale. This thing came from the ground so I'm certain that plant extracts aren't going to hurt it in the slightest. Luckily, I had some Clorox Cleanup which I assume is just bleach in a spray bottle.

I cornered it in the bedroom and gave it a spray. That $&@#*$&#!!! didn't even blink. Normal bugs run when you spray them with something. Even Raid makes them run for a second before giving up the ghost. This thing just stood there like Debo. "You want some of this old man?" "No!" It started walking (not running, walking) toward me with a very angry look in its eyes. I grabbed the broom and slapshot his ass across the room. This thing was so big I actually felt resistance as I hit it and even heard a thud when it hit the opposite wall.

At this point it was on its back and its underbelly was exposed. I saw it reaching for its gun, so I walked over and did my Jules impression. "And I will strike down upon thee with a great vengeance and furious anger those who would try to poison and destroy my brother. And you will know my name is the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee." I didn't even realize that I was holding the spray bottle like it was a glock until midway through me emptying the clip.

Do you know that bastard was still alive? The bleach had no effect. I finally bit the bullet and realized that I was gonna have to pick it up. I did what I see people do on TV all the time. I took a cup that I had no intention of ever using again and put that on top of it. Naturally, Hulk-Roach was longer than the diameter of the cup, so it became a two-trip job to get him to the toilet. I slid some paper underneath and walked it to the watery grave. Even then I felt it fighting through the paper. It had heart. I'll give it that. You don't get to that size by being a punk, I guess.

I flushed about eight times just in case he decided to get itsy bitsy spider on me and climb back up to finish the fight later. So far, it's been quiet, or maybe that's just what it wants me to think.

Say It, Say It...SEGA!

[caption id="attachment_3220" align="alignnone" width="604"] Guess what I'm not buying again[/caption]

Pictured above is Xbox 360 number 6. That's right. My SIXTH Xbox has died. No, I'm not balling outta control. Wile E. Coyote is the only person I can think of who would optimistically buy that many flawed products from the same company. No, my brand of stupidity is closer to the entry level. I outright purchased two of these things. How I ended up with six is a little complicated.

Basically, I bought the first one at launch and it died right after the warranty expired. What happened next is what Business Economics refers to as "The Sunk Cost Fallacy." It's where you throw money at something with the justification of "I've spent so much already." I had so many games by that point that it only made sense to buy another one. Right after doing that, Microsoft extended everyone's warranty after a barrage of complaints.

In a nutshell, I bought two and those things died so many times within the extended warranty periods that a total of six made their way into my house. What you see in the picture is the chosen one. Number 6 made it to 2013. He beat the Mayans. And now he'll join his ancestors on Ebay where he'll be sold for parts. (He's an organ donor)

What I find strange is the realization that I don't really play video games anymore. I feel like I've let my childhood down. I'm 30 and I haven't made good on any of my promises. I was supposed to have nothing but Kool-Aid in my fridge, buy all of the Transformers that my mother said were too expensive, and buy the actual arcade machine for Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles since the one at the Rivertowne Theater kept taking my money. I've let myself down. Besides NBA 2K12, the newest game I have for this thing is from 2008.

Oh well, it too can find a hero's welcome on Ebay.

 

Arm & Hammer

(Knock on wood) I think the smallpox that I picked up at daycare is finally working its way out of my system. I'd like to thank my grandmother for giving me my mutant healing factor. Because of her I can be shot up to eighteen times point blank and still heal fully within two hours, provided I have some baking soda and a Rock Creek Ginger Ale.

What's funny is that the whole time I was sick I kept wondering how it is that I still have a stomach lining. As a kid I would get really sick once a year and there were always three remedies:
1) Go somewhere and sit down
2) Go lay down
3) Baking soda and ginger ale

That first one was a test, I think. The pre-existing condition that she always diagnosed me with was, "just want some attention." Headaches, sore throats and radiation poisoning was typically just me wanting somebody to pay me "some mind."

Number two was my grandmother's version of an x-ray or blood work. In regular medical settings when a doctor can't figure out what's wrong she'll send you for an x-ray to rule out some things. If I did, in fact, lay down and stay down then it was a good sign that I was actually sick. An hour of that would be followed by a check for a fever via my grandmother's hand to my forehead (no thermometers in my house). I would next be packaged freezer-style under about eight comforters so as to not spoil until she returned from her trip to the store.

The third and final remedy was the last resort. A nurse came by and asked about my advance directives before the procedure began. I said goodbye to my Teddy Ruxpin and made peace with the possibility that I would never find out what Dr Claw looked like on Inspector Gadget.

My grandmother reappeared in my room with butter knife, a box of Arm & Hammer Baking Soda, a cup of water and a green 16oz glass bottle of Rock Creek Ginger Ale. Then she went into her drug dealer mode. You ever see someone in a movie get a big shipment of cocaine? They always stab through the brick of cocaine with a knife and then taste some of it.Well, my grandmother would stick the butter knife down in the baking soda box and come up with WAY more than the 1 teaspoon recommended on the side of the box.

She also paid no mind to the explicit instructions that said it should be fully dissolved in a glass of water. She handed me the knife and made me eat all of it at once. Next I had to wash it down with some water and chase it with some ginger ale. For those who don't know, Rock Creek is a soda brand here in DC. It is the strongest soda on earth. If you poured some on a wooden floor, the floor would burst into flames. Ginger Ale is already strong and bitter, but imagine it with whatever hell-level carbonation that they use in Rock Creek sodas.

The timer was then set for about 7 minutes, after which anything that wasn't nailed down inside of me found a way out. The best way to cure an upset stomach is to just start fresh with a new stomach lining, esophagus, intestinal walls, etc. Later, once my body started building a new stomach, she'd give me some of that chicken noodle soup, a cup of hot tea and a "victory" Coca-Cola.

To this day, I don't know if it's because of her remedy or just my body's fear of ever getting sick in her presence, but I've had a really strong immune system. Once a year I get sick as soon as I even think about baking soda, I start to feel better.

I Want to Know What Love Is. I Want You to Show Me

I heard an old song today. It went like this:

I want to know what love is. I want you to show me.

I can tell you what love is. Love is walking to your car from the mall with a stroller and asking your two year old if she has to use the bathroom only to hear crickets chirping, and then, as you're strapping her into the carseat, you feel a slight moisture on her pants, which then prompts you to ask again only to get a complete 180 of an answer in the form of a scream of "Potty Time, Let's Go!!!" that forces you to think quickly on your feet, by which you psych the child out by laughing and making her think that your full speed sprint through the parking lot and back into Macy's is some form of game, one that includes knocking an old woman out of the way at the first counter that you see and asking the clerk "Where is your bathroom" as your child joins in the fun and starts passing gas audibly loud while yelling "Potty!" which lends authenticity to your plea for assistance and garners the sympathy and forgiveness of the elderly woman whom you nearly knocked to the ground as you scurry along to the bathroom which the clerk failed mention was a women's restroom which would help your two year old if she wasn't two, but unfortunately she is, so you have to make a quick decision of whether or not to try and find the men's room or violate several ethical norms by yelling "Man coming in with two year old who has to pee and can't hold it!" which you wouldn't expect to be met with such a calm response as, "Well, there's two women in here," and even after you say, "Well I'll keep my eyes closed" they don't run out screaming, instead choosing to just continue about their business and so you plop your kid down on the first toilet you see not really noticing until after you leave that the women's room had a lounge chair in it where the urinals would normally be in a men's room, which is odd, but whatever, and you leave out of the bathroom after your child finishes dispensing what seemed like a gallon's worth of fluid and you go home and think to yourself, "She'll never remember this" and then you hear a song saying, "I want to know what love is. I want you to show me" and then you remember what you just did and you say, "I guess that's what love is."